Trauer Um Mutter: Kollegen Stehen Zusammen

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Trauer um Mutter: Kollegen stehen zusammen

Man, losing my mom was…rough. Absolutely brutal. It still hits me sometimes, even years later. It wasn't just the grief, you know? It was also navigating the workplace afterwards. Figuring out how to tell my colleagues, how to manage work while my world was crumbling. This is a tough one to write about, but maybe sharing my experience can help others.

Breaking the News: Awkward, but Necessary

Telling my coworkers felt like walking on eggshells. I didn’t want to burden them, but also, pretending everything was normal felt impossible. I opted for a short, simple email to my immediate team. Something like, "My mother passed away unexpectedly. I'll be taking some time off." I kept it brief; I wasn't ready for a bunch of questions right then. Later, I explained more to the people I felt closest to at work. Honesty is key, even if it's hard. Don't feel like you need to share every detail, but being upfront about your situation is best.

The Unexpected Support: A Lifeline

What surprised me, and honestly, saved me, was the overwhelming support I received. I expected awkwardness, maybe a few sympathetic nods. Instead, I got offers for help with projects, colleagues covering my shifts, and even just simple things like bringing me coffee. One guy, Tom, even brought me a ridiculously huge plate of cookies – totally unnecessary, but insanely thoughtful. He knew I loved cookies. It felt like a small army of kindness, showing up in the most unexpected ways. Lean on your colleagues, even if you feel like you should be strong on your own. You don't have to be a superhero.

Practical Tips for Navigating Grief at Work

• Don't feel pressured to return too soon. Take the time you need. Your mental health is more important than any deadline.
• Communicate with your manager. Let them know what you're capable of doing, and what you need support with. This avoids misunderstandings and unnecessary stress.
• Accept help. Seriously. People want to help. Let them. It doesn't make you weak; it makes you human.
• Set boundaries. You're grieving, and that's okay. You don't have to answer every question, or participate in every office event. Protect your energy.
• Remember self-care. This sounds cliché, but it's crucial. Eat well, try to sleep, even if you can only manage short naps, and find small moments of peace throughout the day.

My Biggest Mistake (and How to Avoid It)

My biggest mistake? Trying to be "too strong." I internalized everything, thinking I had to handle it all alone. I pushed myself way too hard, and it backfired spectacularly. I burnt out, and ended up taking even more time off than I initially planned. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. You're not a burden; you're a person experiencing immense loss.

The Long Road Ahead: Healing and Moving Forward

Grief is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be good days and bad days. Some days, even years later, I still miss her terribly. My advice? Be kind to yourself, accept support when offered, and allow yourself time to heal. The workplace can be a tough environment, but the support of your colleagues can make a world of difference. I learned that the hard way.

Remember, you’re not alone. There are resources available too, like grief counseling services and employee assistance programs (EAPs). Don't hesitate to reach out. Take care of yourselves, folks. You deserve it.